She is Mee

Everyone always asks how is it dating in your thirties and abroad. Well, it’s a challenge to say the least. So many different cultures and nationalities. It’s fun but also very exhausting. I’ve had my fair share of first dates, matches on online dating sites, and randomly meeting men. Random as in out at the mall, restaurants, or bar. In my opinion, the dating pool has a little pee in it. 😂

I took a poll on my social media and every woman had a similar answer. “It sucks. It’s nonexistent.” For me, I think the issue everyone is here for different reasons and don’t plan to stay long term.

In my opinion, being a black woman trying to date is hard. For me I have to ask so many questions at the beginning, and then when I ask these questions some men get offended. The questions I ask are: “Are you married? Do you have a family back in your home country? What are you looking for? Do you just want sexual relations?” I know some of these questions sound crazy but believe me you better ask early! So many questions to make sure people are real, because if one more person says they want to give me a massage I’m going to scream!

I’ve had the best luck trying to meet people using dating apps. Most matches don’t make it pass the app messages, because the conversation is blah or they just want to give you a “massage”. First dates don’t turn into a second for a variety of reasons. So when you finally meet someone with a good vibe and the messages make it to WhatsApp you actually try to get to know that person. But just because it made it to WhatsApp doesn’t mean it’s quality. I’ve been tricked a few times.

So in short dating abroad is fun you can meet new people, learn new cultures, but nothing seems to be long term. This is strictly my opinion and my experience. I have met some nice men and been on fun dates. However, like I said previously most people just want something quick and for the moment.

The advice I would give to any woman dating in her thirties is DATE THEM ALL! You might think you like a certain type of man, but it’s always fun to step out of your comfort zone and try something new! Also, date yourself and take yourself out! Don’t forget to love yourself and enjoy your own company!

Until next time readers.

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